Here's one of the sneakiest truths about money and manifestation: a scarcity mindset doesn't always look like fear. Sometimes it looks like being responsible. It dresses itself up as logic, as "saving money," as the smart and mature choice, and that's exactly what makes it so hard to catch. I learned this the hard way recently, and I want to walk you through it, because it's one of the most important lessons I've had in my own journey around wealth.
What Scarcity and Abundance Mindsets Really Are
A scarcity mindset operates from lack and fear. It tells you the safest thing to do is to hold on, save, and protect what you have, even when spending could be a powerful investment in your future. An abundance mindset operates from trust. It believes there is more than enough to go around, that money is a tool to move you forward, and that investing in the right things always comes back to you.
Neither one is loud about which it is. Abundance can feel scary because it asks you to spend, risk, and trust. Scarcity feels safe and sensible, which is precisely how it keeps you small.
My Seattle Lesson: When "Logical" Was Actually Fear
Let me give you a real example from my own life. Last year, I moved to a new city, something I'd dreamed about for a long time. I was thorough about it, too. Over the course of a year I visited eight different cities to compare, then went back to my top choice twice, even bringing my partner, before committing. It came down to two cities, and I chose the one I did for one main reason: taxes.
One of my options had no state income tax. The other would have cost me around 13% of my income, plus a much higher cost of living, so by choosing the lower-tax city I was saving close to 20% of my money overall. If someone told you that you could keep an extra 20% of your income just by living somewhere different, that would sound completely logical, right? That's the trap.
Because here's what I eventually admitted to myself: the higher-tax city is where people in my industry go to grow. It's where the book deals, the agents, the publicists, the stages, and the creative, like-minded community all are. An abundance mindset would have said, pay the extra money and go where your dreams are being built. My scarcity mindset said, save the money, it's the responsible thing. And it disguised itself so well as logic that I didn't even notice I was making a fear-based decision.
Even Millionaires Have Money Blocks
I run a seven-figure business, and I still have money blocks. That's the part people don't talk about. Becoming successful doesn't automatically delete the limiting beliefs you grew up with or the scarcity patterns you built while you were struggling. I had quietly decided I would never again pay those higher taxes, no matter what, and I felt righteous about it, like it was pure financial wisdom. It was really fear wearing a very convincing costume.
Interestingly, I did make the abundant choice in a bigger version of the same decision. I'd looked at relocating somewhere that would have saved me around 40% of my income in taxes, but when I actually visited, I realized it would isolate me because of language, culture, and distance. I chose to keep paying that tax because I could see the value of being somewhere I'd actually thrive. I was wise enough to think abundantly about my overall happiness, but not yet wise enough to apply that same abundant thinking to the exact city my career needed.
How to Spot Scarcity Hiding Behind Logic
So how do you catch scarcity when it's pretending to be the smart choice? Ask yourself a few honest questions.
Is this choice moving me toward my dreams or away from them?
Saving money is a good thing, but if a "responsible" decision quietly steers you away from the direction you're meant to grow in, that's a flag. Scarcity optimizes for protecting what you have. Abundance optimizes for where you're going.
Am I choosing this out of fear, or out of trust?
If the honest reason underneath your logic is "I'm afraid of losing money" or "I could never spend that much," that's scarcity talking. Logic is a wonderful servant and a terrible master. Let it support your vision, not override it.
Would the most abundant version of me make this same call?
Picture the version of you who already has everything you want. Would she make this decision? Often the answer makes the fear obvious.
Reframing Spending as Investment
When I realized I'd made a scarcity-based choice, I was frustrated and even a little angry at myself. Correcting it isn't free either. There are real costs to course-correct. But I made a decision not to punish myself, and I want you to adopt this too, because it's central to an abundance mindset.
If you punish yourself every single time you grow, you're really telling yourself it's safer never to grow at all. That's not better. Growth requires making decisions with the information you had at the time and being willing to update them. So instead of calling it a mistake, I call it an investment and a lesson, and I repeat a mantra to myself: every dollar I spend with a clean, pure heart and good intentions comes back to me tenfold.
That's the abundance reframe. Money spent moving toward your purpose is never wasted. It's seed money for the life you're building. When you truly believe that, even an expensive course-correction stops feeling like a loss and starts feeling like tuition for your growth.
Don't Be Afraid to Be Wrong
Here's the deepest lesson in all of this: don't be afraid to be wrong. I had told everyone in my life, for years, that this was the one city I'd always wanted, the last place I'd ever move. I would not stop talking about it. So admitting it wasn't the right fit for my career was humbling and honestly embarrassing.
But the faster you allow yourself to be wrong, the faster you can be right. The faster you can admit a decision isn't serving you, the faster you can course-correct and move in the direction you're actually meant to go. Being unwilling to be wrong just keeps you stuck in the wrong place longer, protecting your ego at the expense of your dreams.
And to be clear, none of this means the experience was a waste. There was so much I loved about where I landed, and a part of me would always have wondered "what if" had I never tried it. That matters. Abundance isn't about never making a wrong turn. It's about trusting that every turn, right or wrong, is teaching you something valuable and moving you forward.
Trust Your Intuition, Even When It Costs You
I built my entire career on trusting intuition, making big decisions, and not letting fear make the call. So when I felt a strong intuitive pull toward the city my dreams are actually calling me to, I knew I'd be a hypocrite to ignore it just because following it would cost money. Even the most logical, numbers-driven person in my life agreed without hesitation once I explained how big my dreams really are.
That's the heart of an abundance mindset. Listen to your intuition even when it doesn't make financial sense on paper. Always put your dreams first. Understand that any money spent, any time spent, and any mistakes made along the way are an investment into your dreams. Don't be afraid to spend on your vision, don't be afraid to fail along the way, and don't be afraid to be wrong. Just notice when scarcity is dressing up as logic, course-correct with compassion, and keep moving toward the abundant life that's waiting for you.
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